DR. ANGELA DECANDIA, DSW-LCSW ESSEX COUNSELING
  • Couples Therapy
    • Infidelity & Affair Recovery Counseling
    • Prevent a divorce
    • Sex Therapy
    • Premarital Counseling
  • Individual Counseling
  • C.A.R.E.: Collaborative Affair Recovery Experience for women
  • Family Therapy
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Infidelity Counseling 
You CAN heal your relationship...

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The Trauma of Infidelity

A breach of trust could have happened a long time ago. It could have happened last year or you could have just discovered it this week. Infidelity id devastating  It can feel impossible for you to have a clear plan on how to heal after the affair.

Infidelity and the Body

Infidelity has a direct impact on the nervous system
​which affects your day to day functioning!

Your Brain on Infidelity ©2021 -Dr. Angela DeCandia

The Incidence & Impact of Infidelity

  • A relationship betrayal is traumatic. Infidelity has been found to occur in 25% of marriages (Gordon & Mitchell, 2020). ​
  • Infidelity can cause prolonged distress that mirrors the symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder - PTSD (Dean, 2011).
  • Studies suggest the impact upon the betrayed is significant, regardless of whether the infidelity was sexual, emotional, in-person, or virtual (Guitar et al, 2017).   ​​

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​Emotionally Focused Therapy - EFT
​can help...


For the partner who has been betrayed
  • Help you understand what happened in a safe and structured way so you don’t feel overwhelmed by your emotions and needs for answers
  • Identify your vicious cycle of interaction with your spouse to effectively de-escalate your conflict when you attempt to have a conversation about what happened
  • Help you to address the infidelity directly to work together instead of against each other
  • Manage anger and other difficult feelings when you are triggered 
  • Identify what needs to be done to rebuild trust, safety, and security.
For the partner who has been unfaithful:
  • Help you with full disclosure is the best road to protect, not destroy, your marriage
  • Identify ways to prevent shame and guilt from prompting you to shut down and withdraw in difficult conversations 
  • Help you to let go of shame so you can engage openly with your partner
  • Communicate your sense of remorse successfully with your partner to cultivate acceptance and forgiveness
  • Help your spouse heal and rebuild trust and security with you 
  • Create a closer connection with your partner even when you face shame and other difficult emotions
Local Areas We Serve
Montclair, Glen Ridge, West Orange, South Orange, Maplewood, Livingston, Chatham, Short Hills, Summit Union, Berkeley Heights, Westfield, New Providence, Madison, Morristown, Clifton, Bloomfield, Nutley, Rutherford, Verona, Cedar Grove, North Caldwell, Florham Park, East Hanover, Roseland, Union, Springfield, Teaneck, Englewood

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Areas and Zip Codes

07042, 07043, 07040, 07041, 07003, 07079, 07901, 07902, 07081, 07039, 07052, 07081, 07078, 07090, 07110, 07101, 07028, 07083, 07940,  07111, 07303, 07304, 07306


  • Couples Therapy
    • Infidelity & Affair Recovery Counseling
    • Prevent a divorce
    • Sex Therapy
    • Premarital Counseling
  • Individual Counseling
  • C.A.R.E.: Collaborative Affair Recovery Experience for women
  • Family Therapy
  • Meet the Team
  • Rates and Insurance
  • Book an appointment
  • Blog